Watch your words...

I was reminded today (and yesterday too) that words can either build a person up, or tear them down - in an instant. You never know when something you say is the thing that calms a person enough to get through the day, or if it's the thing that pushes them over the ledge they are teetering on.

Yesterday I had to deal with a very rude person on the phone. I've been nothing but nice to this person, and they thought they had every right to talk to me as though I were a dog. 8 months ago, I'd have fallen over the ledge. As it stands, I was okay. Today I dealt with someone on the phone who is sooooo super sweet and understanding, and helpful. She didn't have to help me, in fact - prolly caught a lot of grief for doing so - but she showed a true Christian act of faith and kindness and it means a lot to me. Built me up. Just when I needed it. (Thanks Kelly!!)

What do your words or actions say about you to those around you? Do people enjoy your company and conversation? Or do they steer clear of you? I've learned a lot of valuable lessons since leaving my 'job' in May, and the number one is that WORDS HAVE POWER. Power to build you up, or tear you down. And when you tear someone down with one 'little' thing....it takes a LOT of words to fix it. As Dr. Phil says, "It takes 100 'atta boys' to undo one 'you suck'" Or something like that....I can't imagine Phil saying 'suck' but you get the idea....ROFLMAO.

Decide today if you are in 'construction' or 'destruction' mode. May make the biggest difference in the lives around you.

~ Misty

Harmony Said to....

1. What was the last thing you put in your mouth? My coffee....but I can't quit playing with my new lip ring, so that might count...

2. Where was your profile picture taken? I think it's the one I took in the bathroom. Krysteena had just fixed my hair for me, and I was lookin' fine! :)

3. Can you play Guitar Hero? I CAN *technically* but I don't because everyone I play with laughs at me. I need to play when no one is home, and get really good, then kick their little butts.

4. Name someone who made you laugh today. Haven't felt like laughing yet today. Blase made me giggle though, does that count?

5. How late did you stay up last night and why? Okay - get ready for it - I was in bed by TEN O'CLOCK!!! And asleep shortly afterwards! I couldn't hardly believe it myself! ;)

6. If you could move somewhere else where would you and why? I would love to live in Greece - at least in the summer months! ;) Oh, wait, I'd need to be single and kidless for that kind of recklessness....I guess just somewhere warmer.

7. Ever been kissed under fireworks? Yeah, but I'm not understanding why that's a big deal - I never thought it was.

8. Which of your friends lives closest to you? Belena USED TO - but she left me all alone! :( THEN - I found Laury (my twin) so I'm coping. I guess she lives the closest now! :)

9. Do you believe exes can be friends? With benefits? Nope - it always leads to 'with benefits'. I used to think so, but...um...no.

10. Do you like Dr. Pepper? Yes, but only in a bottle or on tap. Cans suck.

11. When was the last time you cried really hard? I'm proud to say, it's been a LONG time. I can't even remember WHY I cried that hard the last time, so that's a good thing!!

12. Who took your profile picture? Krysteena....no, wait...I think I took it myself.

13. Who was the last person you took a picture of? Hot neighbor. OMG - he is so hot.

14. Was yesterday better than today? Why? Yesterday was good - Avery had a football game in the morning, then we took the kidlets to Incredible Pizza for Avery's birthday, then bought new face jewelry for MY birthday. THEN - soccer for Tristan, then home to watch movies! Bed early....weird. Today has just started, so I don't know yet. Going to the Cowboy vs. Chiefs party at my mom's house and then Avery's b-day celebration with family.

15. Can you live a day without TV? I CAN, but what have I done to deserve THAT punishment???

16. Are you upset about anything now? Not upset....just...frustrated.

17. Do you think relationships are ever really worth it? YES - I have 5 great kids b/c of the relationship I'm currently in.

18. Are you a bad influence? Umm....depends on who we're talking about. For my kids - absolutely NOT. For one of my friends who shall remain nameless who is coming to spend the weekend - maybe. She hopes I am anyways! ;)

19. Night out or night in? I'm always in. I need to change that! LOL

20. What items could you not go without during the day? COFFEE. Phone. Facebook.

21. Who was the last person you visited in the hospital? Lee Coatney, I believe.

22. What does the last text message in your inbox say? hahahaaaaa....that too, I'm a naughty boy. (and I'm not elaborating on that!)

23. How do you feel about your life right now? I feel.....like i'm living in neutral.

24. Do you hate anyone? Hate is a horrible word, and poisons the hearts of those who carry it.

25. If we were to look in your Facebook inbox, what would we find? Messages from friends and family? Nothing 'good' though, my life is too boring!

26. Say you were given a drug test right now, would you pass? Absolutley.

27. Has anyone ever called you perfect before? Been awhile - that's what I miss.

28. What song is stuck in your head? "I gotta feeling" - listening to it now! :)

29. Someone knocks on your window at 2 a.m., whom do you want it to be? Jensen Ackles?

30. Do you (or did you) want to have grandkids before you’re 50? Well, considering I have 19 and 16 year old kids....it's technically 'possible', but I'm hoping it will be awhile.

31. Tell us your Saturday night. THIS last Saturday - I just did....LAST Saturday was far more exciting. I got to hang with Nate and friends! ;)

32. Do you think too much or too little? Depends on what we're talking about - sometimes I think too much, sometimes I'm impulsive, and don't think things through.

33. Do you smile a lot? I smile all the time - even when I don't want to. I'm getting really good at it too!

NOW - your turn to answer on YOUR blog, so I can see YOUR answers!

~ Misty

Do you Prefer…

-Sunset or Dawn – SUNSET - “not a morning person” doesn’t even begin to describe me.

-Pepsi or Coke – COKE – Pepsi is just disgusting

-Cake or Pie (and what kind?) – Cake – Chocolate (perferrably my mommy’s)

-Letterman or Leno – I would have said LENO, but he sucks now.

-Toyota or Nissan or Honda – None of the above?

-Diane Sawyer or Barbara Walters or Katie Couric – I LOVE KATIE!  Barbara just SUCKS.

-James Taylor or Jimmy Buffet – JIMMY!!!  Why don’t we get drunk…

-Favorite Scented Candle – Homespun Memories from Partylite, but sadly, it is discontinued. SO – I’ll go with Midsummer’s night from <cough> Yankee…..<blech>

-Your favorite Beach, and why?  - the beach in Greece.  Me, Stathis, and the moonlight.  ‘nuff said ;)

-Most aggravating thing about your Job – Not getting paid for it…..

-Favorite Retail Store – Bed, Bath, and Beyond. 

-Ever had a ‘flat tire’ while driving? If so, how was it replaced? – ON our way to the NEW KIDS ON THE BLOCK.  Superman saved us!  (Thanks Steve!)

-Age when you first tasted a Beer – too young to remember!  My ‘daddy’ drove a truck for Budweiser, and I remember sneaking a drink of his….that was really young!

-Age when you first puffed a Cigarette – 4th grade.  Younger than that, when I snuck one of my mom’s, but I don’t remember that age either!

-Longest time in a place that was NOT your primary residence – One month in GREECE BABY!!!! :)

-Approximately amount of water you drink per day – NOT NEARLY ENOUGH!!

-Your favorite ‘romantic gesture’ from your S.O. (if you are bashful, skip this one) – When Kent had my necklace made from the pearl he found on the beach in Japan as a little boy.  It was our 2nd anniversary! :)

-When grocery shopping…which dept. is your first stop – Fruits and veggies baby! :)

-Celebrity you would like to have dinner with, and why – NEW KIDS ON THE BLOCK (so that I could decide which one I am marrying, and which one my daughter can have).  OR – Jensen Ackles – so he can lip sync “Eye of the Tiger” for me! ;)

http://http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R0Fz_egtEgc

Happy Fall y'all!

Going to school full time is hard work – did I mention that before? I really enjoy it though….I LOVE using my brain, and I’m loving my classes! Of course I’m saying this before I get back my first test tomorrow and my first paper. I hope I am still this positive about classes after tomorrow night!



I know that I post a lot of pics of Rogan – he is the baby – and it’s not because I like him more or anything – I just didn’t have DIGITAL photography with the other kids, and scanning all those pictures in….yeah – finding the time. I do promise to post more – but in the mean time – Rogan and I at the football game this weekend. The BEARS played their hearts out – and fought off the Bobcats until the end of the 3rd quarter – 33-38 and then they ran over us! Of course 6 players (I think that’s all) were diagnosed with Swine flu the week before and way more than that missed school b/c of flu-like symptoms – so I think we did GREAT!! Anywho – here is my future comedian!










That boy is hilarious! Had the cheerleaders falling in love with him – thanks to cousin Brat-ley who taught him how to ‘flirt properly’. They gave him a Bears shirt – and he wore it all weekend!

So we had the annual “Oz FALL Fest” this weekend – got to spend time with Nate. He graduated with my brother, but I always pestered them when I was little, so I continue to do my best to pester him now! Had a great time hanging out with him, Brad, Sherry, Diane, Jill, and the rest (Oohhh…Gilligan’s Island). Same time, same place next year!

While I was walking through town, I saw this guy standing in the road – he looked JUST LIKE my devoted blog reader (and comment poster) BLASE! I had to take a picture, b/c for a second – I thought maybe I really DID have a stalker…;) SEE???? Doesn’t it look like you Blase??

So – for all of those readers of mine who are on facebook – I am NOT on facebook all day!! I swear!! I’m logged in – my computer is on….but I’m usually sitting in the living room doing homework, or cleaning….if I see a post, I might check it. I know other people who appear to be online WAY more than me, so quit teasing me!! :p

Okay – I’ve blogged for the day (week). I’m going to finish the homework that is due tomorrow. :) Life is GOOD!

~ Misty

How old were you when you did all these things?

So I was confronted this week by someone who is dealing with the ‘fallout’ from something they did when they were younger.  Someone is actually blaming them for ‘mistakes’ they made as a teenager.  Seriously?  It’s been 18 years, and someone thinks you should answer for your mistakes NOW?  Seriously?

No amount of explaining that, or comfort, or rationale is helping them cope.  You can’t change what you did.  YES – you should have done it differently, but you were a different person then.  I can’t imagine telling my daughter in 18 years that she was a horrible person and never wanted to speak to her again b/c of something she said/did today.  (and she’s really mature and smart)

Of course this led me to think about the things I was doing at 15 or 16.  Most of which I’m not proud of.  A lot of which I’m glad I did – I learned valuable lessons.  Don’t know if I can answer these questions myself, as my mom will kill me – but I’m putting it out there for you.  You don’t have to actually post your answer, but think about it – and ask yourself if you should be held accountable NOW for what you did at 15 or 16.  And then I wonder – if the people you were doing this with were, oh, say, in their 20s…..can you really be held accountable?  I think THEY should have known better.  Anywho – I’m rambling….so – here are my questions:

How old were you when you:

• had sex for the first time?  (How old was he?)
• had a DRINK for the first time? (got drunk?)
• smoked a cigarette (and did you continue smoking?)
• smoked weed (and inhaled?)  *giggle*
• did a different form of drug? (or did you try ANY?)
• drove a car without license (and for what reason?)
• partied hard at a 21+ party even though you were under 21 (or any party, for that matter)
• gave someone a ******* (this is really popular now – more so than when I was that age)

I wonder how much the times have changed.  WHY did you change (if you did)?

So, that’s what’s eating at me today. 

Until next time -

~ Misty

Seriously? Seriously.

So I’ve started school AGAIN.  Do you know there are MANY differences in attending college at 17 (I graduated early) and starting college at 34?  There ARE.  There are SOME differences that I welcome, and some, well…PISS ME OFF.  Let me share.

1. When the professor says READ your chapters….READ THEM – how hard is it to read a few pages.  Sheeeeessshhh…..It will save ME from hearing, “WOW! Where did you get THAT from???” and the professor answering you by saying, “Um…in your book.  The one you paid over $100 for….the one you should READ”.
2. When you come to class (at OVER 40 years old – seriously – how many times do you have to remind us of that?) and say, “I didn’t hear her assign THAT….what do I do?” and WHINE and COMPLAIN b/c you ‘didn’t hear her”….YOU need to SUCK IT UP.  She is giving you HALF credit.  I did the work – THAT night actually – and I do get whole credit, but STILL – you’re an idiot.  I hope you flunk.  Slacker.
3. I don’t care why you are at school.  I don’t care if you are 40 (her again?) or have a new baby at home (I did that too) or you are just doing this b/c you have ‘nothing better to do”.  I’m here to LEARN.  To actually GET WHAT I PAY FOR.  SHUT THE FREAK UP DURING THE LECTURE!!!!  I AM here to learn. I do want to hear what she says – just b/c I don’t want to miss hearing her assign homework.  I want FULL credit.  Dumb @ss.
4. If you are taking an online class and are REQUIRED to log in ONCE A FREAKING WEEK to add to a conversation – DO IT.  At LEAST once a week you can stop at the library (if you don’t have a computer) or a friend’s house or SOMETHING.  Complaining that you don’t have ‘time’ to b/c ‘you work full time’ is NOT an excuse.  You are here to get a degree – or you’re not.  DECIDE.  I have five kids…..I don’t ‘work’ but I WORK MY @SS off  in my classes.  Give at least 50%.  That’s at least posting SOMETHING.
5. When you are required to do a serious ‘research project’ – “people wear the color blue more than the color red b/c they stand out more in red” is NOT a good project.  SERIOUSLY????  How many articles will you find on this subject?  (carp, there may be many – I should have googled that).   WHAT GRADE ARE YOU IN??? My 6th grader laughed at that.  And I won’t mention the one about M&Ms……
6. And one last thing – we are NOT in third grade.  Or middle school.  Or high school for that matter.  Your excuses won’t fly with COLLEGE professors.  DO THE WORK.  SHOW  UP.  If you don’t want to be here – don’t do it.  There are others who are SERIOUS about learning, getting a degree, and DOING SOMETHING with their life.  Don’t waste my time listening to your whining. 
7. And did I mention that I hate WHINERS????  Sheesh.  Grow up.
8. I am getting my degree in Social Work.  I expect the people I’m going to school with – taking the same classes with – to be of ‘the basically same mind’.  WRONG-O.  I heard a woman say – as I was walking into class last week - “I told her to take the fly-swatter to their @sses – that’ll teach em”. *gasp*  OMG – how wrong are YOU?????  SERIOUSLY????
9. One final thing – NO ONE cares about YOUR situation.  I don’t need to know your life story.  We are in class all evening – and your telling YOUR story only makes the class last LONGER.  If you feel the need to unload on our over-worked, under-paid ‘social worker’ professor – do it after class – THEN, she might be able to find the right words when it’s time to say, “You have diarrhea of the mouth.  SHUT UP”. 

Sorry – I had a rough night in class.  ROFLMAOPMP.  And Blase told me to speak my mind and NOT apologize in my blog.  SO – I’m taking your advice.  Thanks.

So I have my first test, and my first paper due next week.  I’m excited.  Sorta.  The first “test” of how I’m doing…… COOL.  Life is good.  Until next time….

 

~ Misty

Ray Charles, Jerry Lee Lewis, Fats Domino Video

 

No matter what you think about these guys (bad husbands, pedophile, idiots, etc) they were GREAT musicians.  I LOVE this!

Ray Charles, Jerry Lee Lewis and Fats Domino - three of the greatest ivory ticklers of their day - playing pianos on the same stage at the same time. Plus Ron Woods of the Rolling Stones, Carl Perkins (Blue Suede Shoes) and other notable musicians playing back-up, and a cameo appearance by Rod Stewart. All directed by Paul Schaeffer.

Ray Charles, Jerry Lee Lewis
by Hanvak