How old were you when you did all these things?

So I was confronted this week by someone who is dealing with the ‘fallout’ from something they did when they were younger.  Someone is actually blaming them for ‘mistakes’ they made as a teenager.  Seriously?  It’s been 18 years, and someone thinks you should answer for your mistakes NOW?  Seriously?

No amount of explaining that, or comfort, or rationale is helping them cope.  You can’t change what you did.  YES – you should have done it differently, but you were a different person then.  I can’t imagine telling my daughter in 18 years that she was a horrible person and never wanted to speak to her again b/c of something she said/did today.  (and she’s really mature and smart)

Of course this led me to think about the things I was doing at 15 or 16.  Most of which I’m not proud of.  A lot of which I’m glad I did – I learned valuable lessons.  Don’t know if I can answer these questions myself, as my mom will kill me – but I’m putting it out there for you.  You don’t have to actually post your answer, but think about it – and ask yourself if you should be held accountable NOW for what you did at 15 or 16.  And then I wonder – if the people you were doing this with were, oh, say, in their 20s…..can you really be held accountable?  I think THEY should have known better.  Anywho – I’m rambling….so – here are my questions:

How old were you when you:

• had sex for the first time?  (How old was he?)
• had a DRINK for the first time? (got drunk?)
• smoked a cigarette (and did you continue smoking?)
• smoked weed (and inhaled?)  *giggle*
• did a different form of drug? (or did you try ANY?)
• drove a car without license (and for what reason?)
• partied hard at a 21+ party even though you were under 21 (or any party, for that matter)
• gave someone a ******* (this is really popular now – more so than when I was that age)

I wonder how much the times have changed.  WHY did you change (if you did)?

So, that’s what’s eating at me today. 

Until next time -

~ Misty

Seriously? Seriously.

So I’ve started school AGAIN.  Do you know there are MANY differences in attending college at 17 (I graduated early) and starting college at 34?  There ARE.  There are SOME differences that I welcome, and some, well…PISS ME OFF.  Let me share.

1. When the professor says READ your chapters….READ THEM – how hard is it to read a few pages.  Sheeeeessshhh…..It will save ME from hearing, “WOW! Where did you get THAT from???” and the professor answering you by saying, “Um…in your book.  The one you paid over $100 for….the one you should READ”.
2. When you come to class (at OVER 40 years old – seriously – how many times do you have to remind us of that?) and say, “I didn’t hear her assign THAT….what do I do?” and WHINE and COMPLAIN b/c you ‘didn’t hear her”….YOU need to SUCK IT UP.  She is giving you HALF credit.  I did the work – THAT night actually – and I do get whole credit, but STILL – you’re an idiot.  I hope you flunk.  Slacker.
3. I don’t care why you are at school.  I don’t care if you are 40 (her again?) or have a new baby at home (I did that too) or you are just doing this b/c you have ‘nothing better to do”.  I’m here to LEARN.  To actually GET WHAT I PAY FOR.  SHUT THE FREAK UP DURING THE LECTURE!!!!  I AM here to learn. I do want to hear what she says – just b/c I don’t want to miss hearing her assign homework.  I want FULL credit.  Dumb @ss.
4. If you are taking an online class and are REQUIRED to log in ONCE A FREAKING WEEK to add to a conversation – DO IT.  At LEAST once a week you can stop at the library (if you don’t have a computer) or a friend’s house or SOMETHING.  Complaining that you don’t have ‘time’ to b/c ‘you work full time’ is NOT an excuse.  You are here to get a degree – or you’re not.  DECIDE.  I have five kids…..I don’t ‘work’ but I WORK MY @SS off  in my classes.  Give at least 50%.  That’s at least posting SOMETHING.
5. When you are required to do a serious ‘research project’ – “people wear the color blue more than the color red b/c they stand out more in red” is NOT a good project.  SERIOUSLY????  How many articles will you find on this subject?  (carp, there may be many – I should have googled that).   WHAT GRADE ARE YOU IN??? My 6th grader laughed at that.  And I won’t mention the one about M&Ms……
6. And one last thing – we are NOT in third grade.  Or middle school.  Or high school for that matter.  Your excuses won’t fly with COLLEGE professors.  DO THE WORK.  SHOW  UP.  If you don’t want to be here – don’t do it.  There are others who are SERIOUS about learning, getting a degree, and DOING SOMETHING with their life.  Don’t waste my time listening to your whining. 
7. And did I mention that I hate WHINERS????  Sheesh.  Grow up.
8. I am getting my degree in Social Work.  I expect the people I’m going to school with – taking the same classes with – to be of ‘the basically same mind’.  WRONG-O.  I heard a woman say – as I was walking into class last week - “I told her to take the fly-swatter to their @sses – that’ll teach em”. *gasp*  OMG – how wrong are YOU?????  SERIOUSLY????
9. One final thing – NO ONE cares about YOUR situation.  I don’t need to know your life story.  We are in class all evening – and your telling YOUR story only makes the class last LONGER.  If you feel the need to unload on our over-worked, under-paid ‘social worker’ professor – do it after class – THEN, she might be able to find the right words when it’s time to say, “You have diarrhea of the mouth.  SHUT UP”. 

Sorry – I had a rough night in class.  ROFLMAOPMP.  And Blase told me to speak my mind and NOT apologize in my blog.  SO – I’m taking your advice.  Thanks.

So I have my first test, and my first paper due next week.  I’m excited.  Sorta.  The first “test” of how I’m doing…… COOL.  Life is good.  Until next time….

 

~ Misty

Ray Charles, Jerry Lee Lewis, Fats Domino Video

 

No matter what you think about these guys (bad husbands, pedophile, idiots, etc) they were GREAT musicians.  I LOVE this!

Ray Charles, Jerry Lee Lewis and Fats Domino - three of the greatest ivory ticklers of their day - playing pianos on the same stage at the same time. Plus Ron Woods of the Rolling Stones, Carl Perkins (Blue Suede Shoes) and other notable musicians playing back-up, and a cameo appearance by Rod Stewart. All directed by Paul Schaeffer.

Ray Charles, Jerry Lee Lewis
by Hanvak

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If Today was YOUR last day...

Changes in life...

Soooo.....quick rundown of my life currently. I have an (almost) 16 year old daughter - who is absolutley WONDERFUL. And by wonderful, I mean she is NOT me at 16. She has a great head on her shoulders...and I think I can trust her. That said - she started pre-school 11 years ago. *sigh* which my husband pointed out today as we took our 'baby' to pre-school.

I was completely convinced that people who cry on the first day of their kids' school were total DORKS. Yeah, I LOST it today. I'm talking about full-blown bawling. MY BABY - Rogan - started school today. As we left, Kent said, "I didn't think you'd cry". I said, "yeah, me neither.....can we have another baby????" He said no. :(

Avery - my (almost) 10 year old got his football uniform today for mighty-mite football. I don't even LIKE football. I predict the first time he gets tackled, he will quit. I hope and pray I'm wrong, but I just don't see him being a football jock. He ROCKS at soccer (best on the team, if I say so myself) so I know he'll do great - but I still worry. AND - he wants his Uncle Bubby to coach - he can't, but still - that was HUGE!!!

Tristan is so.....grown-up. Got his hair done, and is such a 'little man' I can't stand it. Growing up - all of them. *sigh* He is in SIXTH GRADE already.

And I got my school books today for my first semester back as a college student. I was okay until I opened the 'statistics' book. *YIKES* I don't even know what some of those symbols mean. I literally started sobbing uncontrollably. I think the emotions were running high today. First the pre-school thing....then...that one thing....then the books. I feel like I'm in over my head, and I'm sinking. THEN - my new best-friend-that-is-my-twin talked me down. We went over a few problems in the statistics book, and I feel more in control. I have support, and people who love me that will help! :)

All that aside, I'm just an emotional wreck lately. Not working and getting 1/4 on unemployment than what I USED to make working is getting to me. We are getting by, but some bills have been pushed back. When I get my school money - it will take care of that- but still....I feel like a loser. If my kids were going to actually HURT b/c of it, I would say 'screw all that' and get a job, but in the long run - this will work out for the best. When I graduate and get have my degree, I'll be making the big bucks - Kent can go to part time and help with the winery....and we'll all be happy! What is keeping me afloat is knowing that I have earned TWO scholarships, and that alone paid for school. I am worth it. Lots of work ahead, but I can do it.

Looking for the good in life - I have my baby Sammy I need to visit (soon I hope!). I have a birthday coming up - Laury too! (she's my twin) and we will have a great time together! :) Kent and the boys will be going to Metallica in September....so they'll be happy. AND - I have a few more episodes of HOUSE to watch to be completely caught up for the new season. (it's the little things)

Thanks for checkin' out my blog - follow me to stay up to date with this oh-so-crazy-life-I-call-MINE.

Pics of the first day of school shall be posted later...

~ Misty

I've come to realize......

 I’m a horrible blogger. I should have blogged during vacation, but to be honest, it felt like WORK.  SO – I’ll get back to trying to keep you entertained this week.  Tonight though….a cheesy ‘note’ from Facebook.  :p

1. I've come to realize that my chest-size...Is appreciated by men more than it is by me.

2. I've come to realize that my job...is going to ROCK when I find something that makes me happy. 

3. I've come to realize that when I'm driving...That everyone on the road is out to annoy me.

4. I've come to realize that I need to take more time out...to fix things with my husband.  Focusing ONLY on the kids is not a good thing…we keep forgetting that.

5. I've come to realize that I have lost...my figure – after having 3 kids!

6. I've come to realize that I hate it when...I’m ignored

7. I've come to realize that if I'm drunk...I should hide the phone.

8. I've come to realize that money...causes stress – whether you have it, or not.

9. I've come to realize that certain people...will never change.  Sometimes that’s good, sometimes…notsomuch.

10. I've come to realize that I'll always...be here.

11. I've come to realize that my sibling...is a pretty cool brother.

12. I've come to realize that my mom...is the best a girl could ask for!!

13. I've come to realize that my cell phone...is the enemy.

14. I've come to realize that when I woke up this morning...it wasn’t morning, and I didnt want to get up!

15. I've come to realize that last night before I went to sleep...I enjoyed time with my hubby with NO KIDS.

16. I've come to realize that right now I am thinking...I should be in bed, but I can’t sleep, so I might as well entertain the world with my ramblings.

17. I've come to realize that my dad...is really, REALLY, REALLY missing out on knowing the greatest kids in the world.  *sigh*

18. I've come to realize that when I get on Facebook...I know what pretty much every person in Willow is doing that day.  LOL

19. I've come to realize that today...was a good day.  I love good days.

20. I've come to realize that tonight...is almost over, and I should head to bed.

21. I've come to realize that tomorrow...I am going to get a pedicure, and then come home and clean like a crazy woman!

22. I've come to realize that I really want to...get started on school – I can’t even get my books until the 24th!!!

23. I've come to realize that life...isn’t fair – especially when you hope for too much.

24. I've come to realize that this weekend...is just starting, and I hope we have a good one.

25. I've come to realize that the music I listen to when I am upset...is always the same. 

26. I've come to realize that my friends...all live too freakin’ far away :(  And if Laury moves, I’m never making another friend again!!!

27. I've come to realize that this year...is going to be the beginning of a whole new life!

28. I've come to realize that my ex...will always be my soul mate.

29. I've come to realize that maybe I should...erase that last answer, b/c someone will misunderstand it…..but I know what it means, so screw it.

30. I've come to realize that I have to...live my life for ME.

31. I've come to realize that I don't understand...why living my life for ME is so hard????

32. I've come to realize my past...tortures me sometimes.

33. I've come to realize that parties...often lead to trouble.

34. I've come to realize that I'm totally terrified…of grasshoppers.  I almost stepped on one today, and I SWEAR – my heart felt like it was going to pound right out of my chest.  I nearly had a panic attack!!!

35. I've come to realize that my life...is a contented one.